No Resolutions Over Here

Every New’s Year Eve we see so many of our friends and family set New Years Resolutions only to see two weeks or a month in they have failed at them, this is ONE of the many reasons I don’t set them. First, if I’m going to set a goal for myself why wait till the end of one year and the beginning of another to do it? Second, a resolution is a statement of what you will do – I prefer to set goals…let me get there at a pace I can handle. What I normally do at the end of the year is a Year-End WrapUp! This year I posted on Facebook about my author wrapup. Here it is: “End of Year wrap up and plans for 2019! Edits for book 4 of the Chronicles of Elizabeth Fairbairn have begun… as well as for my WIP titled Forgotten Soul. Both will get a lovely twice over and edits, but Forgotten

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Turning 46

I’ve not been big on celebrating my birthday in quite some time, so this year was no different. My husband is on the road for work and the house has been quieter, not that he necessarily is noisy 😉 Anyhow, as time creeps up on us as it does me I had a lot of things on my mind this birthday (June 11). I didn’t really want any gifts or celebrations, just a quiet day like most others in my life to relax and enjoy myself in my little space. I got that and am very grateful. I did have a few surprise gifts and to say the least am blessed. (I’ll share photos below) My father passed away at the age of 43 the day after his birthday; my mother when she was 48 and just eight days after her birthday. I think it was when he passed that I no longer wanted to count the years. After my

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When are we done?

A while back I heard a conversation where one parent told another they didn’t need to give their child advice anymore because that child was now an adult. I thought about this for quite sometime and mulled it over and over in my head. Here are my thoughts: The only time we are done doing anything for our children is (1) they no longer acknowledge you as a parent or have cut all ties, (2) legally, when they turn 18 in the US they are a legal adult and then we can’t do anything in the form of being responsible for them, (3) they are dead. Blunt, I know but this is how I feel. As a parent, I am to be there for my children with advice until the day they depart this world or I do. If I sit back and be silent then I am not doing my duty as a mom. If I see my child

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Favorite Photo

Week 2 prompt for #52ancestors is a favorite photo. I thought long and hard about what I thought my favorite family photo was. This was a true inner struggle.  I first considered photos of my grandparents (either side), (below is Vera and Cecil Dyess together, Vera Dyess ) (I couldn’t locate photos of my maternal grandparents to share in time of this post)           Then considered a photo of my and my mother. (Betty Jean and I) I thought, “what about a pic of me?” (this was when I was about 3, if I remember correctly) “Or a pic of me with my first born?” (Me holding Amanda, she was less than two) Then I realized the one photo I treasured above all was one I first saw as an adult.  A photo of my father playing with me on the floor. I was just a baby but to be able to see this one photo made

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Genealogy and Words

Over the last few years, I have slowly begun to dive into the genealogy of my family. Years ago, my mother worked an endless number of hours gathering data, researching documents, and joining organizations to learn more about our history. Not just hers or mine but that of our family! I’m blessed to have all her research even if much of it is only one branch of the family. I am also blessed to have my paternal side’s research accessible as well. I have been working for the last few months updating my information on Ancestry.com and connecting with others to gather even more information. One conversation led me to the #52Ancestors which is a weekly writing prompt on my genealogy called 52 Ancestors in 52 Weeks by Amy Johnson Crow. I plan to participate and have scheduled this posting to happen every Thursday. Week One is a simple start. So this is my introduction and start. My paternal family

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Even a year later I miss her

While the title of this post gives you a clue about what this will be about – grief, loss, and love, it doesn’t tell you about the soul I miss. Rhea. Yes, my chihuahua. Its been a year since I had to let her go and be in peace but I still miss her daily. There is not a day I don’t find myself with her in thought even in the slightest way. She was with me right around eight years and she was my shadow and snuggle bug. She had a unique soul, very particular and just lovable… but she had a temper and would put her brothers in their place. Since her passing we have lost her brother Maximus as well… but we gained a new brother Merric (my betta fish) and a sister, Nyx. People always said after having an animal for so long and you add new ones to the family they are never replaced. This

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Having a purpose

When we are children we say we’re going to grow up and be police officers, doctors, firefighters, and more… It’s not till we are in our teens that we start to see with clearer vision what we are meant to do, not that we always listen. But as an adult, have you discovered your purpose? I must admit it has taken me a while to understand that I knew all along what my purpose was I just didn’t see it. Over the last 7 years, I had to rediscover myself, learn who I am and what my purpose really is. As I would sit in reflection on various occasions, I figured it out one day. My purpose is to inspire others to be better versions of themselves with inner growth and to make sure I give them encouragement as they choose the best paths to travel. Deep down, I believe this is what all of us should do. Help out

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